Dual occupancy: Are rich women less attractive?
Mégane, owner of a top-of-the-range upholstery
Double occupancy has barely started and candidates are already stirring up passions in the salons. This week, Mégane, the owner of a top-of-the-range saddlery, provoked some reactions from the public and had a repulsive effect on several candidates passing by, by repeatedly talking about her assets and her taste for luxury. . Are we to understand that in Quebec, a woman who loves money and who talks about it, does not pass?
“Money is a taboo subject,” sexologist Véronique Jodoin. As is politics or religion.”
As part of a first date, the relationship specialist indicates that it is not recommended to discuss these divisive subjects. One should rather try to stay in something lighter.
That said, she clarifies that one should not hide one's true nature. Values, desires and beliefs remain important topics that must be addressed early in the relationship. Otherwise, they could eventually become sources of conflict.
On the first date, we can make sure that there is a physical and mental connection before detailing the contents of our portfolio, but we should not wait too long before talking about subjects that are very important to us. And in the case of Mégane, it is clearly luxury and money. All of Quebec now knows how much their horse saddles cost (psst: up to $6,500).
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But, in our romantic ideals, first and foremost in the name of love, notes Annie Cloutier, sociologist.
“As soon as we meet a person, we are tempted to believe that only love guides us, but research in sociology shows that this is not true. There are always other interests: economy, security, etc. But you don't have to say it. It's so repressed that we won't even say it to ourselves.”
It is therefore not surprising for the sociologist that some people prefer to camouflage the importance of money in their couple, for fear of being judged.
Né.e.s. for a little bread
Véronique Jodoin perceives a certain hypocrisy in judging Mégane so quickly since many candidates and spectators must share her taste for luxury, according to her. It would be talking about it so openly that would make people uncomfortable.
The experts interviewed by Métro agree that the money is particularly taboo in Quebec.
“Making money is not well seen in Quebec, testifies Annie Cloutier. The deep cultural principle of our society remains Catholicism. We come from a society where for a long time our ancestors were told to try not to stand out, not to make money, not to get attached to material things. These values persist in our way of thinking, in our culture, in the judgment we pass on a person who says he loves luxury. This is the opposite of English-speaking societies in North America whose deep cultural foundation is rather Protestant. In these societies, making money is more valued.”
Double standard
According to the experts interviewed, a certain hint of patriarchy and sexism also explains this judgment.
“Even today, in our society, women have less right to make money than men,” observes Ms. Cloutier.
A girl who asserts herself as independent , independent and loving money, it bothers.
Annie Cloutier, sociologist
For example, when Marc-Olivier – the candidate who (strangely) decided to leave her seat – made his red carpet speech, he made it clear he had the money and could take the girls on multiple luxury dates. And the girls were charmed, since they chose him.
“Stereotypical male and female roles call for the man to be the breadwinner and the woman or the one who gets spoiled,” recalls Véronique Jodoin.
