In order not to lose our heads, should we stop hoping for a return to normal?
Almost two years it will last. To preserve one's mental health, is it better to maintain hope of a return to normal life or outright accept that nothing will be the same again?
“I would say that the answer leans more towards the second option: accepting that it will never be the same again,” says psychologist Geneviève Beaulieu-Pelletier from the outset.
But she nuance: “You have to accept it, yes, but not in a resignation that can lead to a feeling of helplessness and depression.”
The psychologist favors rather a reflexive acceptance that leads to wondering what to do to create a new reality that will suit us.
The crisis is a great opportunity to reflect and learn. It's much more proactive. This approach increases the chances of leading us to well-being.
Denial, never good  ;
A return to normal is almost impossible for her. “So much has happened since the beginning of this crisis that returning to the life before is not necessarily possible.”
Clinging to this idea is akin to denial, according to the psychologist. “That would be to minimize the impact of things that have been turned upside down. There is a risk of becoming strongly disillusioned and of being all the more affected psychologically.”
In addition, remaining in hope without working on anything is very likely to lead to disappointment, believes she.
“Hope for a return to normal life is the equivalent of 'it's going to be fine'. If we just base ourselves on that, we don't become an agent of change.”
Moreover, the current context is increasingly being defined as an endemic rather than a pandemic. That is to say, the virus has taken hold for good and we will have to live with it.
“Reality changes all the time, but you have to be flexible and nuanced to adapt to it even if it is not easy, testifies the psychotherapist Marie-Anne Bougie. It's like starting a new romantic relationship. It is not the same as the previous one, but the need to be loved is still satisfied, but differently.”
So beautiful, the life before?
But anyway, is a return to the life before really desirable? < /p>
“In times of crisis, we idealize how it was before, believes Geneviève Beaulieu-Pelletier. Did normal life before, with its fast pace, satisfy us all that much collectively?”
The psychologist believes that there was already a malaise in many. Going back there would not necessarily be so beneficial to calm the hubbub in our noggins.